How To Tell Your Partner You Want A Divorce
Another difficult conversation (I know, we’ve been having a lot of these lately) you may need to approach is: How to tell your partner you want a divorce (or to break up).
First and foremost, make sure the kids (if you have them) are not around. If this means hiring a babysitter or sending them to a friend’s house for the night that’s fine; just remember they don’t need to see or hear this go down.
Choose a neutral location. Neither party should have an advantage over the other.
Allow plenty of time for this conversation; the news may come as a shock to your partner and may require multiple conversations.
Bring notes on what you want to say. Difficult convos often cause anxiety, which may cause you to forget some of your arguing points or reasons.
Use “I” statements, not “you” statements… A.) it will help to avoid unnecessary drama and B.) this isn’t an intervention; this is something you are doing for yourself (and possibly children).
Seek the help of a professional. If you need to or feel safer doing so, use a therapist to support you in delivering this message.
